Gong Hai Fat Choi - Here's A Quick Overview On Chinese New Year

This year, Chinese New Year - The Year of the Monkey - begins on February 8th and lasts until Jan 27th, 2017.

Happy Chinese New Year!

A man in a monkey costume climbs one of the lion statues in Trafalgar Square in London

A man in a monkey costume climbs one of the lion statues in Trafalgar Square in London  Photo: AP Photo/Frank Augstein

People gathered at one of Hong Kong's best known temples - the Wong Tai Sin - to make their new year wishes, while dancers dressed in traditional costumes performed at Ditan Park in Beijing.

Wellwishers in the Philippines, Indonesia, North Korea, South Korea, Malaysia and Thailand have also kicked off the celebrations in their countries.

The Sydney Opera House in Australia was bathed in red light as part of city wide lumiere and lantern display to welcome in Chinese New Year

While preliminary events have been kicking off across the UK, the big celebrations in the capital won't take place until Sunday 14th February.

On Saturday, the National Gallery in Trafalgar Square hosted a free Chinese New Year-themed family day, while Chiswick House Gardens launched the UK debut of the Magical Lantern Festival on Wednesday February 3rd.

The display, which included a 66-metre long dragon, runs until March 6th.

The Terracotta Army

The Terracotta Army  Photo: Anthony Upton/The Telegraph


The new year, also known as the Spring Festival, is marked by the lunisolar Chinese calendar, so the date changes from year to year.

The festivities usually start the day before the New Year and continue until the Lantern Festival, the 15th day of the new year.

The Chinese symbol for monkeyThe Chinese symbol for monkey


Each Chinese New Year is characterised by one of 12 animals which appear in the Chinese zodiac. The Chinese zodiac is divided into 12 blocks (or houses) just like its western counterpart, but with the major difference being that each house has a time-length of one year instead of one month.

This year it's the Year of the Monkey, the ninth animal in the cycle. The next Year of the Monkey will be in 2028.

Popular Chinese New Year Greetings

1. 新年好 / 新年好 (Xīnnián hǎo)

'New Year goodness!'

In Mandarin: /sshin-nyen haoww/ 
In Cantonese: /sen-nin haow/

2. 恭喜发财 / 恭喜發財 (Gōngxǐ fācái)

'Happiness and prosperity!'

In Mandarin: /gong-sshee faa-tseye/ 
In Cantonese: Kunghei fatchoy /gong-hey faa-chwhy/

3. 步步高升 / 步步高陞 (Bùbù gāoshēng)

A steady rise to high places! — "on the up and up"

In Mandarin: /boo-boo gaoww-shnng / 
In Cantonese: /boh-boh goh-sshin /

The personality of the Monkey

People born in the Year of the Monkey are characterised as lively, quick-witted, curious, innovative and mischievous, but it is also believed to be one of the most unlucky years in the Chinese calendar.


The general image of people in this zodiac sign is of always being smart, clever and intelligent, especially in their career and wealth.

In addition, their gentleness and honesty bring them an everlasting love life. Although they were born with enviable skills, they still have several shortcomings, such as an impetuous temper and a tendency to look down upon others.

  • Strengths: sociable, innovative, enthusiastic, self-assured
  • Weaknesses: suspicious, cunning, selfish, arrogant, jealous

Performers play the dragon dance during the Chinese New Year parade

Performers play the dragon dance during the Chinese New Year parade  Photo: KeystoneUSA-ZUMA/Rex Features

Lucky Signs for the Monkey

  • Lucky numbers: 1, 7, 8
  • Lucky colours: white, gold, blue
  • Lucky flowers: chrysanthemum, alliums
  • Lucky directions: north, northwest, west

Famous people born under the monkey sign

Julius Caesar, Leonardo da Vinci, Charles Dickens, Lord Byron, Elizabeth Taylor, Diana Ross, Michael Douglas, Alice Walker, Celine Dion, Tom Hanks, Will Smith, Halle Berry, Christina Aguilera, Owen Wilson, Daniel Craig, Mick Jagger, Bette Davis, Annie Oakley, Eleanor Roosevelt, Cuba Gooding Jr., Gisele Bundchen, Kim Cattrall, Nick Carter, Patricia Arquette, Alyson Stoner, Christina Ricci, Demi Lovato, Miley Cyrus, Nick Jonas, Selena Gomez.

Your sign is derived from the year you were born in the Chinese lunar calendar.

The years below are a rough guide, but if you were born in January or February it may be slightly different as the new year moves between 21 January and February 20.

  • Rat: 2008, 1996, 1984, 1972, 1960
  • Ox: 2009, 1997, 1985, 1973, 1961
  • Tiger: 2010, 1998, 1986, 1974, 1962
  • Rabbit: 2011, 1999, 1987, 1975, 1963
  • Dragon: 2012, 2000, 1988, 1976, 1964
  • Snake: 2013, 2001, 1989, 1977, 1965
  • Horse: 2014, 2002, 1990, 1978, 1966
  • Sheep: 2015, 2003, 1991, 1979, 1967
  • Monkey: 2016, 2004, 1992, 1980, 1968
  • Rooster: 2017, 2005, 1993, 1981, 1969
  • Dog: 2018, 2006, 1994, 1982, 1970
  • Pig: 2019, 2007, 1995, 1983, 1971

What does your Chinese zodiac sign mean?

In Chinese astrology, the 12 animal zodiac signs each have unique characteristics.

  • Rat: Intelligent, adaptable, quick-witted, charming, artistic, sociable.
  • Ox: Loyal, reliable, thorough, strong, reasonable, steady, determined.
  • Tiger: Enthusiastic, courageous, ambitious, leadership, confidence, charismatic.
  • Rabbit: Trustworthy, empathic, modest, diplomatic, sincere, sociable, caretakers.
  • Dragon: Lucky, flexible, eccentric, imaginative, artistic, spiritual, charismatic.
  • Snake: Philosophical, organized, intelligent, intuitive, elegant, attentive, decisive.
  • Horse: Adaptable, loyal, courageous, ambitious, intelligent, adventurous, strong.
  • Sheep: Tasteful, crafty, warm, elegant, charming, intuitive, sensitive, calm.
  • Monkey: Quick-witted, charming, lucky, adaptable, bright, versatile, lively, smart.
  • Rooster: Honest, energetic, intelligent, flamboyant, flexible, diverse, confident.
  • Dog: Loyal, sociable, courageous, diligent, steady, lively, adaptable, smart.
  • Pig: Honorable, philanthropic, determined, optimistic, sincere, sociable.

Chinese New Year's Day Taboos

To be avoided on the first day of the Chinese New Year:

  1. Medicine: Taking medicine on the first day of the lunar year means one will get ill for a whole year.
  2. New Year's breakfast: Porridge should not be eaten, because it is considered that only poor people have porridge for breakfast, and people don't want to start the year “poor” as this is a bad omen.
  3. Laundry: People do not wash clothes on the first and second day, because these two days are celebrated as the birthday of Shuishen (水神, the Water God).
  4. Washing hair: Hair must not be washed on the first day of the lunar year. In the Chinese language, hair (发) has the same pronunciation and character as 'fa' in facai (发财), which means ’to become wealthy’. Therefore, it is seen as not a good thing to “wash one’s fortune away” at the beginning of the New Year.
  5. Sharp objects: The use of knives and scissors is to be avoided as any accident is thought to lead to inauspicious things and the depletion of wealth.
  6. Going out: A woman may not leave her house; otherwise she will be plagued with bad luck for the entire coming year. A married daughter is not allowed to visit the house of her parents, as this is believed to bring bad luck to the parents, causing economic hardship for the family.
  7. The broom: If you sweep on this day then your wealth will be swept away too.
  8. Crying children: The cry of a child is believed to bring bad luck to the family, so parents do their best to keep children as happy as possible.
  9. Theft: Having your pocket picked is believed to portend your whole wealth in the coming year being stolen.
  10. Debt: Money should not be lent on New Year’s Day, and all debts have to be paid by New Year’s Eve. If someone who owes you money, do not go to his or her home to demand it. Anyone who does so it is said will be unlucky all the year.
  11. An empty rice jar: An depleted receptacle may cause grave anxiety, as the cessation of cooking during the New Year period is considered to be an ill omen.
  12. Damaged clothes: Wearing threadbare duds can cause more bad luck for the year.
  13. Killing things: Blood is considered an ill omen, which will cause misfortunes such as a knife wound, or a bloody disaster.
  14. Monochrome fashion: White or black clothes are barred as these two colours are traditionally associated with mourning.
  15. Welcoming the New Year: According to tradition, people must stay up late on New Year’s Eve to welcome the New Year, and then to let off firecrackers and fireworks to scare off inauspicious spirits and Nian, the New Year monster.
  16. Giving of certain gifts: Clocks, scissors, and pears all have a bad meaning in Chinese culture.


Chinese lanterns are strung across a street in Chinatown

Chinese lanterns are strung across a street in Chinatown  Photo: Oli Scarff/Getty Images


A traditional Chinese Wishing tree

A traditional Chinese Wishing tree

The ancient tradition of the Wishing Tree is synonymous with good luck and fortune, and the legend goes that hanging your hopes for the coming year on a Wishing Tree will encourage your dreams to come true.

Members of the public are invited to visit the tree and receive a bespoke wish written by an authentic Chinese calligrapher to take home along with a golden chocolate coin, for added good fortune.


Groundhogs vs Realtors - Signs Of Spring



There is so much weight put towards groundhogs seeing their shadows at the beginning of February to determine whether Spring is around the corner, or if we are to have six more weeks of winter.  Is it right for us to rely so much on a little furball to make major decisions based on weather predictions?  Hmmm.

Here’s an idea.  From 2017 on, we let the groundhog sleep in and call on Real Estate Professionals to advise on the arrival of spring.  A Full-Time Realtor knows the signs of an early spring.  The market starts to heat up, decluttering begins as our clients start preparing their homes to hit the market before the competition, AND the Part-Time Realtors come out from their holes in the ground and take up our prime parking spots at the office.  From a statistical point of view, a heated market in January and February means an early spring selling season.  A dormant market in the early part of the year means a few more weeks of winter to allow you to get your home ready.  Let's dig a bit deeper - with apologies to all Groundhogs.  

How does this year look?  The market has continued where it left off in a record-breaking 2015.  It is HOT!  In January 2015, Markham had 473 listings and 189 sales.  January 2016 showed less listings with only 453, however we had 258 sales!!  69 more sales with 20 less properties on the market.  Silly groundhog!  Shadows are for kids.  It’s a great time to sell and I declare the Spring Market to have arrived!  

If you want to get the jump on the "groundhog followers”, give us a call.   Let’s get your home listed and find you a new one before everyone else figures this out.  Be a leader, not a follower! 

Spring has sprung, and the early bird gets the nicest house!  :)


BREAKING NEWS: SECRET GOVERNMENT DEAL LEAKED? DID CANADA BUY OUT THE USA?

Top Secret Government Deal Leaked?  Did Canada Buy Out The USA?


Speculation over the last few years has been that Canada and the USA have brokered a secret deal that has allowed Canada to purchase the United States of America.  Dating back to the bailout days of 2013, the subtle changes being made in the USA have caused an uproar with Americans, and the general public was starting to catch on.  It is now becoming quite clear that the bailout money may not have come from the US Federal Reserve, and that the money was actually a deposit from Canada for the purchase of the USA.  

"The signs were there from the start, we aren’t stupid" says one American that preferred to remain anonymous.  "The resurgence of the housing market, the snow in California, government regulated Health Care, and more recently Gun Control and a medal in the 2016 World Junior Hockey Tournament have let the cat out of the bag.  Coincidence?  We think not!”.  

"This has been in the works for years” said another American.  "When they sent Wayne Gretzky and other hockey players over, their goal was to infiltrate the USA’s hockey system and change the style of play to a more Canadian way.  This isn’t a surprise.  We saw this coming.”

In Alaska, Sarah Palin admits that she "may not have seen Russia from her porch, and that it could have been Canada disguising itself as Russia by importing Russian snow."  

Buffalo, NY, has been accepting the Canadian dollar at par for years.  Retailers and Restauranteurs in the Niagara Falls region admit that Canada’s largest cross border purchase will have significant financial gains on their business.  “Now that we will be using the same currency, it will cut down on exchange rate losses” said the retailer.  “Canadian money denominations are so easily distinguishable with the different colors they use, and will make things easier for our staff who often can’t tell if they’ve received a $20 or $50 bill.”

Watch for a public outcry in the next few weeks when it becomes public that Presidential Election front runner, Donald Trump, brokered the deal that sold out the USA to their neighbour (yes, with a U).  Apparently, Trump and Canadian Prime Minister Justin Trudeau have already worked out an arrangement that will see Trudeau take over the top job to run the two nations and Trump will become a Member of Parliament on the Canadian side.  Americans are not pleased.  “The similarities between those two are scary, both their names start with TRU” said one person”.  “Is it not weird that Donald’s last name also starts with TRU, and he’s going to become an MP? This is not sitting right.”  

Michigan residents believe the new bridge between Detroit and Windsor was part and parcel of the Canadian purchase.  Will this "pave the way" for better hockey in the USA and cheaper oil prices in Canada?  Or is this as fictitious as Sarah Palin seeing Russian snow from her porch?  ;)

BREAKING NEWS: RE/MAX 2016 Canadian Housing Market Outlook via HomeSearchPros.com

December 11, 2015

TORONTO - Asif Khan, RE/MAX All-Stars HomeSearchPros.com

RE/MAX has released their 2016 Housing Market Outlook for Canada.  And, the future continues to look bright!  

The average residential sale price increased 17 per cent in Greater Vancouver and 10 per cent in the Greater Toronto Area, to approximately $947,350 and $622,150, respectively. As demand shows no signs of waning, these markets are expected to continue to see price appreciation in 2016, of seven per cent in Greater Vancouver and five per cent in the Greater Toronto Area.

In these competitive markets, sellers want to ensure they maximize the value of their homes, while buyers look for guidance during the fast-paced bidding process.

In a recent Leger survey conducted for RE/MAX, 70 per cent of homeowners agreed REALTORs® provide value when buying or selling a home.

Regions outside of Canada’s highest-priced cities reported a spillover effect from the price increases in Greater Vancouver
and the Greater Toronto Area continuing a trend that RE/MAX reported this spring. There were significant year-over-year price increases in Victoria (13%), Fraser Valley (10%), Hamilton-Burlington (12%) and Barrie (8%).

New Canadians and foreign investors continued to be an important demographic of buyers in Toronto, Vancouver and Montreal. Attracted to Canada’s stable economy and low Canadian dollar, this trend is expected to continue through 2016.

In Alberta, a year after the sudden drop in oil prices, housing markets in Calgary and Edmonton showed slower activity but haven’t experienced significant price adjustments. The average residential sale price in Calgary saw a five per cent decrease, due primarily to a larger

proportion of sales at the lower end of the market. In Edmonton, the average price increased by two per cent despite more inventory on the market. An ongoing $5 billion development project in downtown Edmonton has stimulated the local economy and helped to keep employment levels up, mitigating the impact of oil industry layoffs. As buyers in these markets continue to feel uncertain, the average sale price is expected to decrease in 2016, by 3.5 per cent in Edmonton and four per cent in Calgary.

Outside of B.C. and Southern Ontario, high inventory continued to be a significant factor affecting the markets in many cities, including Saskatoon, Regina, Montreal, Quebec City, Halifax and St. John’s. This is primarily due to a period of increased construction. Though new construction slowed down in most of these cities, it will take some time for the market to absorb the product.

RE/MAX 2016 average residential sale price expectation for Canada is an increase of 2.5 per cent as Canadians continue to see home ownership as an important milestone as well as a good investment. 

Read the full report below:

HomeSearchPros.com Toronto Housing Market Update For November 2015


Record Sales in November 2015

TORONTO, December 3, 2015 – Toronto Real Estate Board President Mark McLean announced that Greater Toronto Area REALTORS® reported 7,385 home sales through TREB’s MLS® System in November 2015 – up by 14 per cent compared to November 2014. This result also represented the best result on record for the month of November. Sales through the first eleven months of 2015 amounted to 96,401.

“Not only did we see a record sales result for November, but with one month left to go in 2015, we have already set a new calendar year record for home sales in the TREB market area, eclipsing the previous record set in 2007. Sales were up on a year-over-year basis for all major home types, both in the City of Toronto and surrounding regions. This suggests that the demand for ownership housing is widespread, from first-time buyers to long-time homeowners across the GTA,” said Mr. McLean.

The MLS® Home Price Index (HPI) Composite Benchmark was up by 10.3 per cent year over year in November. The average selling price for all transactions was also up by a similar annual rate of 9.6 per cent to $632,685. Annual rates of average price growth for November and the first eleven months of 2015 were similar, with the strongest rates of increase being reported for low-rise home types, including detached and semi-detached houses and townhouses.

“Demand for ownership housing has remained strong in the GTA throughout 2015, with sales generally increasing at a greater annual rate compared to new listings. This means that competition between buyers has strengthened in many neighbourhoods in the City of Toronto and surrounding regions. The end result has been upward pressure on home prices well above the rate of inflation in most cases,” said Jason Mercer, TREB’s Director of Market Analysis.

Check out the full report below: 

Canada's New Downpayment Rules

December 11, 2015

TORONTO - Asif Khan, RE/MAX All-Stars


Over the last two days, the Federal Government's announcement about tightening mortgage rules for required downpayment has been making a buzz on the news.  

It's being reported as "an effort to cool the red-hot housing markets in Toronto and Vancouver".  Here's what the plan is:

The new regulations will increase the minimum down payment required to buy a home priced over $500,000.  The initial $500,000 of your purchase will still qualify for 5% downpayment, anything beyond that will require a 10 per cent down payment. If you purchase a home for $600,000, and will be paying 5% down, you can only do so on the first $500,000; the other $100,000 will require 10% down (so an extra downpayment of $5,000).  

Now before everyone freaks out and thinks this will really cool down the market, let's look at it closer.  Not many people purchasing a home for $500,000 or more will qualify for the minimum 5% down, and even if they did, most choose to pay on average between 10% and 20% down.  Banks are pretty tight on who they will qualify for 5% down.  Secondly, IF someone really wants to put 5% down on a $750,000 purchase, they will just go out and get a second mortgage to top up their downpayment.  This rule is going to open the door for lenders to make some extra dollars on second mortgages.  Private Lenders that have been squeezed out of the mortgage picture, due to the low interest rates, can now jump back in and offer top-up seconds.  

Will this really "cool the red-hot markets in Toronto and Vancouver"?  Not at all.  Demand remains high. Supply remains low, and although it sounds like a really cool idea to introduce a catalyst for negative pressure on house prices, it's not that big of a deal.  People that only have 5% down should not be purchasing a home priced over $500,000 anyway.  Our lending rules are already tight enough that people that can't afford a certain price point, will not qualify for that price point.  I see this as a great way to increase home owners' equity in their homes, and outside of that it is nothing else.  Don't "bank" on prices to drop anytime soon.  The time to get into the home ownership game is NOW.  Waiting for the sky to fall is just going to put home ownership farther out of reach because the market is not slowing down anytime soon.  

If you'd like to discuss your home ownership plans in more detail and would like a customized equity analysis for your real estate portfolio, let's set an appointment to meet.   Send me a message or find me on twitter @homesearchpros.




The 10 Countries With The Highest "National Well-Being"


The 10 Countries With The Highest "National Well-Being"

It's time to get rid of GDP as a measure of a country's success.

Economic measures of success like gross domestic product (GDP) are a crude way to judge countries. They tell you about the level of economic activity, but not necessarily whether nations are bettering people’s lives.

The Top 10: 
1. Norway
2. Sweden
3. Switzerland
4. Iceland
5. New Zealand 
6. Canada 
7. Finland 
8. Denmark 
9. Netherlands 
10. Australia

U.S. GDP, for example, lumps together the sale of children’s books and the sale of handguns, even though one is generally good for society and the other often isn't. GDP also doesn’t account for impacts to public health or the environment. Neither does it tell you if a lot of people are doing well or just a few people.

The 2015 Social Progress Index is one of a new breed of country success metrics that take a more nuanced look at national progress. While the U.S. has the top GDP in the world, the Social Progress Index shows the U.S. in 16th place, due to its relative weaknesses in heath and wellness, access to education, and personal safety measurement categories.

Michael Green, founder of the Social Progress Index, says the main failing of the U.S. compared to top performers is its lack of an extensive "safety net." The problem isn't inequality so much as the ongoing poverty faced by a significant number of people, he says.

"There isn't a significant relationship between income inequality and stronger social progress," he says. "But we find that countries with lower poverty have stronger GDP. If you really want to advance social progress, you need to improve the lives of the poorest."

Social Progress Index Scores plotted against GDP to show where it does and doesn't correlate.

The monopolistic position of GDP in assessing how well countries are performing has real consequences. For example, international aid agencies assess whether countries should get assistance by whether they're "low" or "middle" income. Countries like India have stopped receiving money recently because their GDP is rising, even as millions of Indians are living on a pittance. Similarly, Angola has GDP per head of over $7,000, making it a relatively successful economy on the face of it. This despite having some of the worst urban slums anywhere (strangely, its largest city, Luanda, is both one of the richest and poorest capitals in the world).

Social Progress Index scores versus poverty rate.

Looking at the social progress of the entire planet, Green says the average level is somewhere between Cuba and Kazakhstan. In general, scores are higher for factors like nutrition and basic medical care than for personal safety, human rights, and the environment. The latter categories get less attention as development priorities and they're not areas that necessarily improve as economies grow.

As for the index itself, the top countries are similar to last year's list, albeit with a few minor changes in position. Norway is now top instead of Sweden, and most the top 20 are still northern European countries. The U.S. has dropped to 16th from 6th place, though that doesn't necessarily mean it's a substantially worse country than a year ago (the scores are tight). More important is the long-term trend: the U.S. isn't No. 1 overall because for important things, like health care, it's pretty average for an advanced country.

[Cover Illustration: julia_sudnik via Shutterstock/Flags: Shutterstock]



BEN SCHILLER

Ben Schiller is a New York-based staff writer for Co.Exist, and also contributes to the FT and Yale e360. He used to edit a European management magazine, and worked as a reporter in San Francisco, Prague and Brussels  Continued


Vote Now in the TREB Elections


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The TREB elections give you an opportunity to select the representatives who will serve your Board over the next year. This year, there are two RE/MAX Associates running for the Director-at-Large position, and we here at RE/MAX INTEGRA, Otario-Atlantic would like to show our support and encourage you to do the same by taking action and voting!

TREB 2015 DIRECTOR-AT-LARGE VOTING IS NOW OPEN!

Asif's Election Info Sheet

Online voting opens today (April 29, 2015) at 12:00 noon and will continue until May 4, 2015 at 12:00 noon. You must log into TREB in order to cast your vote online. For information on how you can submit a proxy vote, click here.

I encourage you all to take part in this vote and wish best of luck to the RE/MAX INTEGRA, Ontario-Atlantic REALTORS running in this year's TREB elections.

Sincerely,


Gurinder Sandhu, CPA, CA
Executive Vice President/Regional Director
RE/MAX INTEGRA, Ontario-Atlantic Canada


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Behind That Beautiful Smile

There's something to be said about a kid that is always smiling.  You look at one of them and think they are happy, fulfilled, confident, and fun.  But what if the smile is a mask that is hiding something?  What if deep down, there's something bothering them and they haven't told anyone?  What if behind that beautiful smile, there's pain?

As a parent, wouldn't this be one of your fears?  But then again, as a parent of a child that always smiles, would you even think there would be something bothering him/her?

I have a personal story about one of my kids.  "Happy go lucky" kind of kid that doesn't let anything get to her.  Or so it seemed until tonight.  My daughter was in a tough situation during her hockey season this year.  Her coaches had upset her with things that were said and done.  While on a road trip for a tournament, she had broke down and cried, told me a few things.  I had promised her I would address them and that she should just enjoy the game and keep doing what she does.  I had told her that I would deal with the coaches, and that she should just focus on playing the game she loves - as 10 year olds should do.  And so she did, while leaving the coaches to me. 

There were a few more incidents that she brought to my attention during the course of the year, and as any parent of a child that was being singled out, her concerns were voiced through me. After the second meeting, issues seemed to have been resolved and Jennah's smile had returned.  What was behind that smile was not revealed until tonight.  

While packing her school bag tonight, my daughter's bookmark fell out of her book.  I saw it had something hand written on it.  She had written: "If you show fear to a bully like Bernard …".  

I asked her what that was about.  She said she was reading a book and there was a pig named Bernard that was a bully.  It reminded her of one of her coaches.  She had written it out on her book mark as a reminder.  She had wanted to show me earlier but forgot.

I asked to see the book.  She brought it down and read the excerpt to me.  It read "They don't love me, they respect me.  If you show fear to a bully like Bernard, he'll jump all over you.".  

THIS was her takeaway from this coach.  Her takeaway was that she needed to stand up to a bully coach.  It was at this moment that I realized how much damage this one coach has caused.  For a child to even think of writing a reminder on her bookmark, think of how badly her psyche had been attacked.  Do coaches/teachers/parents even realize how much of an impact they can have on a child?  Do they not know that even the slightest shot at a kid's confidence or mindset could damage them for life?  Whenever you are in a position of influence on a child, you have the ability to influence their life in a positive or negative manner.  It's a choice that YOU get to make every day.  Choose positive.  Build on their positives.  Let a child think about what you've done to help them in a positive manner.  Do you really want to be the one that they look back at with a negative point of view?  Do you want to be the person of influence that ruins a child's love for a sport, or even worse, their self confidence?  Do you want to damage a kid for life?  It's time for everyone to wake up.  Check your ego, and think about how you can impact a child.  

Now, this won't damage my kid for life.  Not at all.  She knows what this coach did was wrong.  Whichever way you slice it, this was emotional bullying.  He got inside her head.   She also knows to come to her parents if this ever happens again, and let us know that someone has hurt her rather than keeping it inside and dealing with it in her own little way.  I'm proud of her for being brave and trying to deal with it in the best way she thought possible, however I'm a bit upset that her fear of being bullied further prevented her from coming to me earlier.  We'll have to have a little chat about that. ;)

As a parent, this has been heart wrenching, yet a learning experience.  I'll be sure to ask my child more questions in the future, even when the smile says "everything is just fine".  

Parents: Don't let your kid's smile fool you.   That beautiful smile could very well be a mask for something that is hurting them.  



  

25 Life Hacks to Eat Better



Though making time for food and preparing meals may sound like a chore, it can be one of the most important keys to the success of your health goals. If cooking at home seems overwhelming now, don’t worry. The more frequently you’re able to use the following tricks, the less overall time meal planning will take down the road. Before you know it, healthy lifestyle choices will become habits.

For everyone racing through life at warp speed, these tips can help you to make the most of your time in the kitchen.

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Keep it simple. Instead of following some fad diet with lots of rules, keep your healthy eating routine simple. Eat real food that’s mostly plants with lots of color and variety. Balance every meal with high-quality proteins like lean meat, fish, tofu or beans and complex carbs like brown rice, potatoes, quinoa, and healthy fats like avocado, nuts, seeds and olive oil. Make half of your plate fruits and vegetables to meet your daily fiber needs while keeping calories in check.

Don’t bring junk into the house. If you’re easily swayed to nosh on chips, cookies and ice cream, keep the processed snacks out of the house. This simple trick makes healthy eating easy. Out of sight, out of mind.

Eat more fat. Yes, you read that right. People who snack on healthy fats like a handful of almonds eat fewer calories over the course of the day because they feel more satisfied. So don’t skimp on fat; it keeps you fuller for longer so you will, in turn, eat less. Try these 6 high-fat foods that are good for you.

Make lunch the night before. Stop telling yourself you’ll have time to pack a lunch on your way out the door in the morning. While you’re cleaning up from dinner, put together your lunch for the next day. Whether it be leftovers from dinner or a mason jar salad, planning ahead makes it easy to walk out the door with a healthy lunch.

Use Pinterest with a purpose. Make a board of “Must-Make Meals” filled with weeknight go-tos so that when you’re planning and prepping your meals you know right where to turn (or scroll to). Take it a step further and organize recipes by category like “chicken,” “fish,” “vegetarian,” to get more variety in your diet.

Carry a water bottle. Because hydration is a vital part of being healthy, make it a priority to carry a water bottle around with you and refill it throughout the day. The Institute of Medicine recommends men that drink 120 ounces and women 90 ounces of fluid per day. If you’re active, you will need to replace what you lost through sweat as well. Here are some more great tips to stay hydrated!

Eat on a schedule. A person who eats 2,000 calories throughout the day will often have more energy and tend to lose more weight than the person who eats the same amount of calories all at one meal. By skipping meals or ignoring our hunger cues, we force our bodies to run off of fumes. Listen to your body when it says it’s hungry and you will find that it’s easier to resist the temptation of overeating later at night.

Make breakfast in 90 seconds. Breakfast doesn’t need to be a large production; keep it simple for mornings when you have to be out of the house fast. Homemade breakfast burritos are a fast, simple way to grab a meal in the morning using only a microwave. Place one 6-inch tortilla in a cereal bowl and crack an egg onto the tortilla. Add toppings like green chilies, a sprinkle of cheese, onions and leftover roasted veggies from the night before. Microwave for 90 seconds or until the egg is cooked. Top with salsa and voila: breakfast in 90 seconds.

Catch some ZZZs. Getting enough shut eye at night goes a long way to protecting your body. Because hormones are regulated while you sleep, people who get quality sleep on a daily basis tend to make better food choices and have slimmer waistlines.

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Stockpile healthy snacks. Say sayonara to the office candy stash or a drive through when mid-day hunger strikes. Keep healthy snacks on you at all times—pile them in your office drawer, fridge, gym bag and purse. Convenient go-tos include nuts, homemade trail mix, fruit and nut bars, apples, bananas, clementines, single-serve nut butters, dried edamame and air-popped popcorn. If you have refrigeration, stock up on Greek yogurt, cottage cheese and hard-boiled eggs for protein-packed snacks.

Choose whole grains. Make a simple swap in your eating routine by choosing 100% whole grains instead of highly processed white or enriched grains. Whole grains, like steel cut oats, brown rice, barley and 100% whole grain bread or pasta, provide greater nutrition from energy rich B-vitamins to filling fiber. Bonus: Whole grains have a lower glycemic index and glycemic load, meaning they won’t spike your blood sugar as much as simple carbs.

Create a shopping list. Plan your meals and build a list. When you shop from a list, unnecessary temptations don’t land in your grocery cart; your bill (and you) will be more fit as a result.

Grocery shop once per week. When you’re busy, popping into the grocery store on a daily basis is a waste of your precious time. Instead, organize your schedule and plan to go grocery shopping at the beginning of the week to be more efficient.

Go for frozen foods. Frozen produce can be a healthy alternative to fresh foods, and they will last longer too. Fruits and veggies are picked at their peak of ripeness and flash frozen to retain the most nutritional value. Some good staples are corn, peas, broccoli, cauliflower, edamame and spinach. Don’t forget about protein too—frozen proteins like shrimp, salmon, tilapia and even chicken can make weeknights easier. Tip: Stay away from frozen foods that are packed in sauces and syrups.

Opt for pre-chopped veggies. Trouble cutting up butternut squash? Have a crying fest when you chop an onion? Buy pre-cut veggies so all you need to do is cook and eat. Stock up on diced onions, tomatoes, bell peppers, celery, broccoli and cauliflower florets, diced butternut squash and baby carrots to make your life easier.

Shop the salad bar. If you have trouble eating all of your veggies before they go bad, or only need a quarter cup of onion for a recipe, try an alternative approach. You can buy just the right amount for you and pay by the ounce by stocking up on veggies from your grocers’ salad bar. This will save you prep time too. Try adding common salad bar items to meals like omelets, stir-fry or homemade pizza.

Shop at the farmer’s market. It’s nearly effortless to fill up on fresh local produce and eggs when you gather your food at the farmer’s market. Though farmer’s markets have a reputation for being pricey, seasonal produce is often competitively priced with what you’ll find at the grocery store. As long as you can bypass the kettle corn, you’re golden.

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Prep for meals in advance. Being proactive about meal planning can save a lot of time and stress in the long run. While the upfront work may sound scary, you’ll be thankful when you find yourself running late and only have a few minutes to eat. Pick a day or a night to prepare several meals that you can simply warm up throughout the week. Or take the time to separate your snacks into portion-controlled bags that you can grab on your way out the door. Raw vegetables are always a simple, nutrient-dense option. If you’re new to meal planning, check out our great beginner’s guide, which is full of tips and tricks to get started.

Fall back on family favorites. Instead of wracking your brain and reinventing the wheel each week, have a list of (healthy) recipes that you know your family will enjoy. This makes meal planning easier and saves you time in the long run. Working with recipes that you know by heart makes cooking less of a hassle.

Plan for leftovers. If you are preparing a large meal, double the batch. Prepare one to serve and the other to put in the freezer or fridge. This way you have double the food but half the mess! You can also prepare extra chicken or steak to cut up and add to a salad to make for a filling lunch the next day.

Prep a big soup. Soups are a simple way to eat more produce and fiber-rich beans. Opt for homemade, broth-based soups instead of creamy ones. Make a big batch and freeze some of it for another week. Pour single servings into to-go containers to make it easy to grab and go for work lunches. Sip on soup for lunch to fill your body up with good stuff.

Blend your veggies. Add a smoothie or fresh juice to get a few servings of fruits and veggies in your diet. Smoothies make a great breakfast or snack. Make them yourself so that you’re in control of the ingredients. If you’re making it a meal or want a snack that lasts,blend fruits and veg with proteins like Greek yogurt, kefir or milk and healthy fats like cashews, nut butters, avocado or coconut oil.

Make mason jar salads. Not only do these look awesome, but they also make salads fun and functional. No more oddly shaped to-go containers that don’t fit right in a lunch box and never seem to get dry in the top rack of the dishwasher. Prep a salad in a mason jar by filling the bottom of the jar with a simple, vinegar-based dressing, toppings like chickpeas or grilled chicken, chopped veggies, feta cheese, apples, nuts and seeds and lots of greens at the top. Seal tightly with a lid. When you are ready to eat, just shake the jar and dump into a bowl. Once you start using the mason jar, you’ll be taking salads to work on the daily.

Batch roast your veggies. Before your week begins, line a rimmed baking sheet with parchment paper and roast off your favorite veggies like broccoli, Brussels sprouts, cauliflower, mushrooms, butternut squash, kale and sweet potatoes. This small step will help ensure healthy eating during the week. Toss roasted veg on a salad, in an omelet or breakfast scramble, serve on the side of grilled chicken or in a wrap. To roast vegetables, preheat oven to 425 degrees, line rimmed baking sheet with parchment paper, arrange veg on baking sheet not to overcrowd the pan, mist veg with olive or coconut oil. Sprinkle with salt and pepper and bake for 25-45 minutes, depending on toughness of the veggies, until vegetables begin to turn brown and crisp.

Stock your pantry. Pantry staples make it easy to whip up a dinner in no time flat. Convenient pantry items include low-sodium canned beans, canned tuna, diced tomatoes and tomato sauce, nut butter, mixed nuts, unsweetened dried fruit, and whole grains like oats, brown rice and whole-grain pasta.

With your mile-long to-do list, how do you make healthy eating easier?


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Kristina LaRue
Kristina LaRue

Kristina LaRue, RD, CSSD, LDN is a sports dietitian in Orlando, FL and co-author of the Flat Belly Cookbook for Dummies. She writes the food and nutrition blog, Love & Zest, where she shares recipes, life, and nutrition.